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How did I get here???

Updated: Apr 28, 2021


We may ask ourselves, “How did I get here???”

My answer is: One seed at a time.

No one goes into marriage hoping for a negative, disappointing, empty, or frustrating marriage.

NOR do we pray for a disconnected, fractured, lonely, argumentative, or volatile family.

Yet it happens.

Because of my tumultuous childhood, I began my Christian walk, marriage, and family with a very negative harvest. My harvest consisted of seeds I had sown and seeds I had received from others and planted.

I want to encourage you. Our past does NOT dictate our future. We may have planted negative seeds from our thoughts, attitudes, actions, and habits. We may have planted seeds of anger, disrespect, unforgiveness, and selfishness. Perhaps we are in the habit of blaming others or tearing others or ourselves down.

God has good plans for your life. Although we may be harvesting less than our desired harvest, we can still choose to plant new seeds that will transform our harvest. We can intentionally plant seeds of love, faith, patience, forgiveness, kindness, and contentment.

This might sound too simple, but it really works.

The following Scripture is a foundational truth for me personally. I love this scripture! It is the principle of sowing and reaping. It has taught me how to save my harvest.

Galatians 6:7–9 (NIV) (I added bolding)

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

So many times, we think we can act any way we want with no consequences. The Word of God teaches us clearly that, God will not be mocked… a man will reap what He sows.

I remember many years ago when I would carelessly be rude to my husband, and yet still expect my marriage to thrive. It does not work that way. We need to recognize the weeds that rob our harvest of life.

Once we decide we want to reap a good harvest in our personal life, marriage, family, or spiritual life, we can choose to sow the good seeds that will produce that harvest.

When we’re trying to enrich our relationships, here are a few key principles to keep in mind:

  • Our daily choices determine what seeds will be sown.

  • Every Seed Has a Value. Every seed will produce fruit after its own kind and those seeds will produce our future harvest.

  • Do not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time you will REAP A HARVEST IF YOU DO NOT GIVE UP. (Gal. 6:9 NIV)

In the sowing process it is so easy to:

  • get offended.

  • pull back from doing that good thing.

  • become weary with the routine of life, work, and caring for others.

  • sight of the end goal and give into frustrations or temptations.

It is the little things that grow into big weeds that will ROB our peace and the LIFE God has for us, in us, and through us.

It is also our faith and little acts of kindness, love, appreciation, words of affirmation and gentle answers that will be greatly rewarded and produce wonderful fruit… fruit that will last.


Will your daily choices produce the harvest you desire? If not, why not?

John 10:10 (AMP)

… I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance [to the full, till it overflows].

Friend, I am praying that you overflow with the abundant life that God has for you!


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Also heck out my book at throughout I share many examples of God’s faithfulness.

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